LISTEN
For someone like me who has had a rollercoaster of a childhood, and had to take the parent role so early in my life, I know a thing or two about communication. It is not only the best thing but the most effective thing in my case that has gotten me through some of the hardest times. When my dad passed I had to step up and learn how to do things for myself so I could help my siblings with whatever they needed and to this day it's a struggle to be playing parent when I just want to be a teen, and do things teens do. Talking with my friends and my mom about what's going on in my life makes it so much easier to get through everything on a day to day basis. It is harder to get out the words if you never felt talking to people about your problems was 'your thing' but trust me when I say that it takes time and it helps you more than people would ever understand if they would just try. DON'T ALLOW THAT GUY TO RUIN YOU.
There is anything more stressful than seeing your best friend stress over a boy who was't worth any of their time, this one is short but sweet. Take your time, live your life, have fun and just be a kid as long as you want. Don't make your life revolve around a guy who wont matter in a few months. Same thing goes to guys, it's crazy how just not dealing with those kinds of troubles can change you feeling on everything going on around you. |
Put That Dress Away.
The moment you start to dress like those girls you see on TV who only show their tits and a** for the whole world to see, is the moment you start to let yourself go. It is easy to think that you are doing what the boys want you to do, it's is easy to be portrayed as an object once you start dressing like a barbie doll. I know that no girl wants to be used for her body or even looked at just because of they way her body looks. Cover you skin, and don't beat yourself up because they way you look in that dress isn't the way other girls look in it. Comparing yourself is the worst thing you can do, and the best way to lose all self esteem. |
I am mainly speaking towards the teenage mind, mostly girls but for anyone if you take it the right way. For this I started a question answer thing on instagram to see the different types of advice or questions people have. What I am going to be doing is taking the people's need for advice or just questions and answering them on here. I will post more of those as the semester goes on but for now I am only expecting to get a few entries. I also asked my friends what kind of advice I should give or what kind of advice they would need.
You Do NOT Need to Please Everyone.
Let me start off by saying that not everyone is going to be your friend, not everyone is going to like you and you are fine with that. Being yourself is the best kind of person you can be, that sounds cheesy and like I took it out of a health4teens website but trust me it's true. I played a part when I was in 6th and 7th grade, I thought that the only way to get more friends and be 'popular' was to wear makeup and fry my hair everyday, so I did just that. Every. SIngle. Morning. I am still recovering my hair and I don't think my hair will ever be the same. My skin wasn't clear like the other girls and my teeth weren't perfectly white and I used to be so embarrassed walking into school because of the way I looked. But I didn't blame the way I felt on the other girls because it was me beating myself up everyday just so I could fit in. After I stopped trying to be the people I wasn't I got a lot more friends, just from being myself. So please, just be yourself no matter what, and you do not need to please everyone. |